Divorce – the mother of all breakdowns

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Divorce – the mother of all breakdowns

Well, not quite. According to the Holmes-Rahe stress inventory scale, it is number 2.

And in Canada (your local statistics may vary), since the end of the 1980s, between 35% and 42% of marriages have ended in divorce. In other words almost one in two people who marry will go through this experience in their lifetimes. Note that this statistic does not capture those who go through committed relationships that are not recognized as ‘marriages’, which break up with ...

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Armour, what armour?

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Armour, what armour?

If you have never seen ‘die himmel über berlin’ – loosely translated into English as ‘Wings of Desire’ I highly recommend it. The same story got weaponized by Hollywood as ‘City of Angels’ with Meg Ryan and Nick Cage. Go for the original.

The core twist of the story is an Angel who decides to become mortal. He appears in the human world with an ancient suit of armour and clothes as his sole posessions. He sells the suit of armour ...

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Work, Life, Balance?

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Work, Life, Balance?

How come we make these different things? You have probably heard the quote:

“If you do what you love, you’ll never work a day in your life.” – Marc Anthony

I think there are many ways to read this. One of them is – ‘I am having no fun – therefore I must be in the wrong job or doing the wrong thing.’ A variation on the theme is that work is ‘Work’ and play is ‘Play’ and the two are clear, ...

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How about NOW?

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How about NOW?

The great thing about moments is there are lots of them – at least that is our experience. They seem to be in limitless supply. One day they will run out.

So what makes this one, right now special? important? irreplaceable?

My observation is that we discard a lot of moments out of hand – put them into the recycling (or more often the mountain of trash) in the hope that there will be a better one along in a while ...

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Access to Power (and Achilles seal- a bad pun)

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Access to Power (and Achilles seal- a bad pun)

This is not really a coaching blog entry. Or is it? You get to decide.

Those who know me well understand that since 2005 I have been doing strange things with old Vegetable Oil.

I have been steeped in the science of climate change and greenhouse gas impacts for a long time courtesy of my father – Graham Goodeve – a geomorphologist by trade who, whilst I was growing up, fed my curiosity about the physical processes at work in the world ...

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Mission Impossible…?

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Mission Impossible…?

Impossible belongs to an interesting family of words; reasonable, feasible, predictable. Another set of words lies close by; luck, hope. Taking it apart it is the concept that there is no way to get there from here. Perhaps the only way is divine intervention or some happy accident…

Imagine, if you will, your life as a big game board – like monopoly or snakes-and-ladders – only bigger. A LOT bigger. You play the game by following rules about what moves are allowed to ...

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Authentic Power

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Authentic Power

…does not look like what you think.

It is almost silent, perhaps not very obvious – but it is clear when it is present. Stuff just gets done! And not just ordinary day-to-day stuff; this is the shoot, to the bud, to the flower movement. Transformation. The world changes. And here is the magic – BECAUSE YOU SAID SO.

When we set our minds to a goal two things happen; the Universe gets on our side and starts presenting opportunities, ideas, openings, ...

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Are you ready?..

Yes. Period.

Ready is a disempowering story. I will be ready when I have … X, Y, Z …

The fact of the matter is that you are here now, on this planet, with the tools, skills, knowledge and resources that you have, including a limited and diminishing number of tomorrows in which to make the difference and create the life you were born to have.

So, I assert, you are ready. Ready to take on life and challenge the stories ...

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…with your head out of the way

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…with your head out of the way

I have had so many reasons why I cannot have what I want. It is not reasonable to expect, ask for it or go out and get it.

What is this reasonable stuff? Just a story about how the world is, based on the past and largely on untested assumptions. You shake that story up, challenge it and take it on – the world becomes a whole lot bigger. And it includes all of those things, experiences, ways of being ...

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those infuriating people…

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those infuriating people…

Guilty as charged.

I am one of them.

Professionally.

Someone who will keep reminding you of how great you are, how fantastic the life you dream of is and (drum roll please) – HOW POSSIBLE IT IS!

It is amazing that that last bit gets people every time…

People will argue with me that it is not possible. Their circumstances, their upbringing, their current situation does not allow that to be possible.

I have two choices; agree with them – which makes for a short conversation ...

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