taking the throne…

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taking the throne…

This is more of an essay than a blog post, and more personal reflection than ‘being coach’ which is where a lot of these writings have been from. It is incomplete, a work in progress and – at least as your are reading it right now is at least ‘done’ to version 1.

Yesterday I touched into a strong sense of outrage and anger, witnessing the ongoing disaster in Syria. I had no idea what to do with this apart from express ...

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What for, what next…

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What for, what next…

This is a response to ‘Being “Not Lonely” isn’t Enough’, which I cross-posted this week. It is a great article, and as many eloquent writings about ‘settling’, desire and deserving it all – I noticed that I had not read a good male perspective on that subject recently.

So rather than looking for something to cross-post, I looked for the closest available Man who is looking to create the relationship of his life. I found myself (and yes, that is ...

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Divorce – the mother of all breakdowns

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Divorce – the mother of all breakdowns

Well, not quite. According to the Holmes-Rahe stress inventory scale, it is number 2.

And in Canada (your local statistics may vary), since the end of the 1980s, between 35% and 42% of marriages have ended in divorce. In other words almost one in two people who marry will go through this experience in their lifetimes. Note that this statistic does not capture those who go through committed relationships that are not recognized as ‘marriages’, which break up with ...

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Armour, what armour?

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Armour, what armour?

If you have never seen ‘die himmel über berlin’ – loosely translated into English as ‘Wings of Desire’ I highly recommend it. The same story got weaponized by Hollywood as ‘City of Angels’ with Meg Ryan and Nick Cage. Go for the original.

The core twist of the story is an Angel who decides to become mortal. He appears in the human world with an ancient suit of armour and clothes as his sole posessions. He sells the suit of armour ...

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LEADERSHIP FROM THE HEART

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LEADERSHIP FROM THE HEART

People come to Coaching for many reasons. Either there is something they really really want and do not know how to get there. Often they come because where they are at in life not what they want – they know there is something more.

The first conversation we have is nearly always one to generate clarity about both where my client is at and what they want.

It brings a huge question – what is it that you really want? How ...

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New Year? Hell Yeah!

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New Year? Hell Yeah!

I entered the New Year with an unusual ‘bang’. I have a lot going on in my life; Coaching, Consulting, Coach-training, co-parenting my kids, occasionally breathing deeply… In the gap after Christmas it became painfully clear to me how little space I seemed to be providing for myself in all of this. My tentative solution was that something had to give – and I was looking to the outside world for answers. What should I give up? This sense of ...

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Work, Life, Balance?

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Work, Life, Balance?

How come we make these different things? You have probably heard the quote:

“If you do what you love, you’ll never work a day in your life.” – Marc Anthony

I think there are many ways to read this. One of them is – ‘I am having no fun – therefore I must be in the wrong job or doing the wrong thing.’ A variation on the theme is that work is ‘Work’ and play is ‘Play’ and the two are clear, ...

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How about NOW?

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How about NOW?

The great thing about moments is there are lots of them – at least that is our experience. They seem to be in limitless supply. One day they will run out.

So what makes this one, right now special? important? irreplaceable?

My observation is that we discard a lot of moments out of hand – put them into the recycling (or more often the mountain of trash) in the hope that there will be a better one along in a while ...

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Access to Power (and Achilles seal- a bad pun)

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Access to Power (and Achilles seal- a bad pun)

This is not really a coaching blog entry. Or is it? You get to decide.

Those who know me well understand that since 2005 I have been doing strange things with old Vegetable Oil.

I have been steeped in the science of climate change and greenhouse gas impacts for a long time courtesy of my father – Graham Goodeve – a geomorphologist by trade who, whilst I was growing up, fed my curiosity about the physical processes at work in the world ...

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Mission Impossible…?

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Mission Impossible…?

Impossible belongs to an interesting family of words; reasonable, feasible, predictable. Another set of words lies close by; luck, hope. Taking it apart it is the concept that there is no way to get there from here. Perhaps the only way is divine intervention or some happy accident…

Imagine, if you will, your life as a big game board – like monopoly or snakes-and-ladders – only bigger. A LOT bigger. You play the game by following rules about what moves are allowed to ...

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